School Life Balance & Help your child achieve it
Work Life Balance is much touted among adults but as a parent have you thought about your child’s School-Life balance?
I was having a discussion with a few parents who are our customers and the topic veered to how during our parent’s time the focus was only and only on academics as they believed that academic success translated to career success.
The topic progressed onto how they (our customers) as modern parents, would want to give their children an overall exposure/holistic environment to their kids and not just stress on academics.
Wanting to do better than the best for their kids has resulted in the kids going to an International school, Krav Maga /Karate/Judo classes, French/German/Spanish classes, Dancing/Singing classes, Swimming/Tennis/Skating classes……AND ALL THE KIDS ARE LESS THAN 10 YEARS OLD.
Now this is not an exceptional case. Today every middle class parent wants to do for their child which, in their minds, their parents were not able to do for them. That the times then were different and folks of our parent’s generation did the best for their children as did their parents before them is a different topic….for a later blog
This scenario has resulted in most of the middle class parents putting their children in expensive schools which provide or claim to provide holistic experience and additionally sending their kids to expensive classes on weekdays and weekends. Invariably the child ends up stretched, stressed, & exhausted. They are children; not energizer bunnies. Don’t we as adults grumble about work life balance when we “ Work Hard & Party Harder”?
After-school extracurricular activities are extremely important and develop life skills essential for facing the real world. However excess activities can lead to stress, exhaustion and lack of motivation. I have personally seen chirpy energetic children become lifeless when exposed to such a schedule….( School, Tuition, Guitar Classes, Singing Classes ,Swimming Classes, Karate Classes, French Classes.. so on and so forth)
So how can you help your child overcome this and have a School Life Balance?
Plan for Off days
Sending children for sports & extracurricular activities is good as it promotes exercise or develops a talent. Do keep in mind that children need time to rest so that their mind and body can rejuvenate. Ensure that in their calendar of activities they get one day free. Also if any day they are not feeling up to it, don’t force them to go.
Let the kids choose
If they tell you that they want to do something let them join those classes and if they say they dislike something, don’t force them to join those classes. While not all cribs of the children need to be taken seriously, you need to judge what they like and what they really dislike
Maintain a calendar
The optimum way for maintaining School Life balance in your child’s life is maintaining and updating their calendar. Now and then, review their schedule and work on improving it. If it is relatively free add some activities, if it is very tight do drop some activities from their calendar
Most important thing in maintaining your child’s school life balance is to choose the after school programs keeping in mind your child’s likes/passions and free time. Periodically review if things are working out and change the schedules if they are not
Extracurricular activities are important, so is Academics and equally so is the balance between the two. Help your child maintain a balance for his or her overall development.
Is your child scared of the maths? Does multiplication mortify her or does trigonometry terrify him? More than 85% of parents that we have interacted with shared the concern that their children feared/disliked/hated maths and they would love options which make their children overcome fear of maths. In this article we bring you a list of games and activities which you should encourage your children to do. Research has shown that these games & activities have a positive impact on children’s math skills and will help them tame the math monster.
Basic maths is not only important for scores in school tests but plays an important role in every career building exam. It is also needed for practical aspects in day to day life whether it is for shopping, personal financials, day to day decisions etc
In fact, maths also helps in Careers where its requirement may not be obvious .One such example is medicine. The current mantra is – ‘If you want a unique career in medicine? Study math!’
This list of games & activities to help tame the math monster are:
1. Lego/Building Blocks :
Lego or Building blocks encourage kids to build big & complex concepts from small & simple parts. This helps in the problem solving thought process where bigger complex problems have to be broken down into simpler parts to arrive at a solution as is the case with math problems. Playing lego is the most fun way to tame the math monster.
2. Card Games:
Lots of card games like 21, bluff , rummy encourage ideas of permutations, combinations and probability. This helps a child’s ability to think about numbers and encourages mental math, helping to tame the math monster.
Research has shown that Origami or Paper Folding Craft can improve geometry as well as fractions skill. Origami is an effective way to tame the geometry monster.
4. Chess :
Chess has a set of rules which help build analytical thinking skills in children. These skills are helpful in solving equations in algebra, helping you tame the evil math monster, the one with the unknown variables.
No matter where or what you have studied, you will fall into one of these generalized category of student type. After all, time is precious when you are a student. At best, you can humanly indulge in only 2 out of 3 time-intensive activities: socializing, studying or sleeping. Any more than that – you can only be called a super-student. And these are as rare as superheros. Read on to know what type of a student are you.
Student Type – Nerd
Do you love studying? Do you love correcting your fellow students on facts no matter how annoying you sound? Can you quote from your notes and text books any time of the day, month or year? Are you considered super-smart but a ‘non-partying’ type? Then, you are student type: Nerd
Student Type: Slacker
Do you manage to attend a class but sneak in at the last minute and sit at the last bench? Do you come up with creative reasons for not completing your homework? Example – my neighbor’s plant died and I cannot get over that loss. Then, you are a slacker. Here are 4 secret tips to make you love studying.
Student Type: Zombie
Do you love partying at the cost of your sleep? In class, do you have bloodshot eyes and need to pinch yourself to stay awake for more than 45 seconds? Do you still manage a decent grade during exam time albeit with a lot of stress? Then, you are a zombie!
Student Type: Super-Student
Are you the most popular person, have A+ grades in all subjects and in the pink of your health? If yes, pinch yourself and wake up, because you are dreaming. This is the super-student category and we all know they are not real!
As a parent do you feel that your child hates studying? Do you feel that it is a herculean task to get your child to love studies and do homework? Does your child put up more resistance to studies than what the opposition parties put up against the ruling party?
Well, we have good news and better news. The good news is that you are not alone. In a survey of 112 parents that we did 104 responded that they find it difficult to get their child to study.
The better news is that there is a remedy. If you try the following four steps, you will find a drastic improvement in your child’s motivation to study and learn
Let your child be the teacher:
Research has shown that the most effective way a person learns is if he has to teach someone. You become the student and tell your child to teach you that topic. Ask questions from time to time to clarify your concepts (and your child’s). You will see that 40 minutes of study time will feel like 10 minutes for you as well as your child and make your child love studying.
Use technology tools:
Several studies have shown that students like to study if the course is personalized, adaptive and fun. Technology tools like mobile apps, web applications, educational games, multimedia courseware have the advantage in the ability to engage learners effectively. If you are worried about using technology, read our blog Can your child’s online time lead to your happiness?
Group studying helps to a great extent. Let your child invite some friends (who have the same subjects) and have a study plan. Group studying encourages social behavior like learning from each other, helping clarify concepts. Also it eliminates boredom (a key reason why children hate studying).
Also appreciate your child when he/she studies on her own, completes homework regularly. The small appreciations of these things go a long way in motivating the child to study. While your expectation as a parent would be that regular studying is a normal thing, if you appreciate regular studying your child will feel very happy and carry out this behavior to gain appreciation from you.
Studying is just one of the many ways of learning. Just making a child study is not enough, you have to make your child LEARN. Here are 5 ways to motivate your child to learn
We asked a dozen 8 to 15 year olds what they would like their parents to do in the New Year 2017 and what we actually got was a list of what they would like their parents not do. Here are the top 3 habits parents should stop in 2017
Habit 1: Stop Saying “study harder beta (kid)
With getting up at 6:00 am to go to school and returning home by 8:00 PM after School, after classes, after extra classes, after homework, after weekend classes, it cannot get harder than this:
Chanting of “Study Harder “by parents becomes worse during exam days. The biggest Parents’ Dilemma becomes: Whose exam is it anyways?
Habit 2. Stop comparing with “Sharma Ji’s” Children”
Sharma Ji’s child got 88.8 % , your child has got only 87.3%., OMG! The world has not collapsed. Frankly, did your getting 85% and not 87 % in class 8th make a difference to your success? May be it is time not to force your child to be like somebody else and let her decide what she would like to do.
Habit 3: Shouting
Yes, your child is not perfect and can be annoying and irritating .Yes, parenting is stressful; I know being a parent myself). But, if you continuously yell at your kids, then you hurt them, irreversibly. Try yoga, meditation or some other stress management tool to reduce (if not stop) shouting/yelling at home.
May peace reign at home in 2017! A happy and healthy relationship with your child will go a long way in your child’s overall development of life skills.
The versatile Bollywood actor, Aamir Khan has played a variety of characters, each who follows his unique parenting style. Every parent follows a mix of these parenting styles depending on their child’s age, but one style usually dominates. As a parent, do you relate to one of these parenting styles?
A) Unconditional Parenting style
The term, unconditional parenting, coined by author Alfie Kohn, is a philosophy which accepts and supports the child no matter how he or she behaves. A similar philosophy was supported by Aamir Khan as a teacher, Ram Shankar Nikumbh in Taare Zameen Par
B) Authoritarian parenting style
Authoritarian parenting is a child discipline strategy where children are expected to behave as they are told. Parents raise children in discipline, obedience and sticking to the rules! Authoritative parents make use of rational control: Rules exist but they have to make logical sense. This parenting style allows relative freedom and give and take discussions. But the parents will always have the last say! Aamir Khan as Mahavir Singh Phogat trains his daughters in an authoritarian parenting style in Dangal
C) Permissive parenting style
Permissive parenting encourages free development and independent thinking. There is a relative role equality between parents and children. Parent are warm, responsive and caring towards their children. They do not favor control and punishments but manipulate subtly through bribes and praise. Parents tend to avoid conflicts and encourage give and take discussions. Objections to permissive parenting is that it may lead to spoiled or bossy children, who have never learnt any boundaries.
Permissive parenting was supported by Aamir Khan’s character Rancho in 3 idiots
Irrespective of your parenting style, you are most likely an awesome parent. Not convinced? Take this ‘Are you a good parent?’ quiz
The age old parental wisdom – ‘Love Math? Study Engineering. Love Biology? Study Medicine’ no longer holds true. New age doctors use math quite a bit.
Doctors use Math extensively.
To be fair, doctors used math earlier too.
In conventional medicines, math is important for doctors, nurses, surgeons. Dosages and prescriptions rely on math, mainly ratio and proportion, numbers etc.
CAT scans and other images need a good understanding of geometry. Statistics are important for drug research and field trials as well as in preventive healthcare and vaccination programs.
Big data has revolutionized medicine
What has changed is the unprecedented amount of data being generated and used in the field of medicine, disease, genetics research. This has opened up new careers in medicine and healthcare, like data scientists, data analysts, mathematicians, programmers and statisticians and has created exciting opportunities in the field of bio-informatics.
New age jobs in medicine, especially in the area of cancer research, genetics, all use math. Big data has revolutionized medicine.
These jobs need both an expertise in the domain like chemistry, genetics, biology, immunology apart from some expertise in technology oriented domains such as text mining, ontology, data integration, machine learning, and information architecture.
Also read, our earlier article
In conclusion, the age old convention that Love Math? Study Engineering; Love Biology? Study Medicine is no longer relevant
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